In Time, The Memories Will Fade
March 11 at 8:43 am | Posted in Break-Up Advice | 5 CommentsTags: broken heart, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, love and loss, memories, moving on, surviving a relationship break-up
One of the most difficult things about surviving a relationship break-up is dealing with the lingering memories. When you’ve given so much of your heart and soul in a relationship and it ends, getting over it isn’t easy.
It’s going to take time to rebuild your life and picture your future without the man you thought you’d share it with. At least that’s what I keep reminding myself.
Moving on would be so much easier if there were a way to forget everything: the look in his eyes when watched me from across the room, the sound of his voice when he said my name, the feel of his heartbeat against my cheek, the taste of his lips, and every moment we spent together in a world where no one else existed.
There was a movie I saw once, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, where the couple chose to do exactly that: forget. They decided to erase the memories of each other. It’s really a brilliant concept. Too bad there isn’t a real-life option to do it. I’d sign on the dotted line in a heartbeat. Yes, the procedure would completely wipe out all of the good memories, erasing 10 years of life and love, but if the memories were gone, the crippling pain of a broken heart would be gone too.
It brings up the question: Is it better to have loved and lost? Or never to have loved at all?
What would you choose?
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In hindsight, it’s better to have loved because you do learn something along the way that will carry over into future thoughts and moves into relationship land.
While in the midst of a break-up, yeah, it’s so better to have never loved because who wants to do with the freaking heartache and memories?
Comment by Shonell Bacon— March 11 #
Shonell, maybe once I get to whenever/wherever “hindsight” begins, I may be able to put a positive spin on it (not likely). The lessons that were reinforced (exactly like every other guy I’ve been in a relationship with) just helped repack the baggage I thought I’d never have to carry again. I’d rather have the lobotomy.
Comment by thebreakupdiet— March 11 #
Hi. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and it is so true this memories are killing me…what should I do? Is it appropriate to go into new relationship or not so I can faster forget my ex? Or maybe it is better for me to find something, like some kind of sport to keep me busy?! Thanks for the answer 🙂
Comment by Emma— March 18 #
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